Friends

The other day, I told my boyfriend that I had plans to go out for drinks with one of my friends, he was fine with it, at first. I got home pretty late, and he was already in bed, but the next morning I could tell that he was upset about something. Eventually I got it out of him that he was upset that I went out with my friend and that I didn't ask him if he wanted to go with us. Here's the thing: he's 16 years older than me, I figured that he probably didn't want to go out with a couple of twenty-somethings and sit there while we talked and caught up on life. I made the point that he didn't know her, and we were just going out to talk and catch up, and he made a big deal about how he's made an effort for me to meet all of his friends, BUT I have tons of friends and if I made an effort for him to meet ALL of them, that's all we would do. He's met the ones that mean the most to me, the rest, not a big deal...

I've thought about this quite a bit, and this is what I've come up with:

In straight couples, the guy has his guy friends that he likes to go out to the bar, watch the game, and play poker with, and the girl has her girl friends that she likes to go to movies, shopping, dinner with. And for the most part those don't ever really mingle together. The guy is perfectly fine with his girlfriend/wife/whatever going out with her friends and is more than okay with not joining them, and vise versa.

So what's the deal here? I guess this is only a gay couple situation. I mean, I have those friends that if he thought about it probably isn't that interested in meeting and getting to know, that I want to go out with from time to time. And that should be okay. I'm totally fine with him going out with people without me, even if it's someone I do know. I just don't think it's that big of a deal...